If you are not tired, you will never reach home. Only if
you’re tired, will you ever rest. Everything in the world will tire you. Only
one thing does not tire you. That is love. Love does not tire you because that
is the end, the home. It is not possible to be tired in love.
In fact, enjoyment brings tiredness! Tiredness is a shadow
of enjoyment. What puts you on the road is your desire to enjoy. What brings
you home is being in love. In your life, you move from one place to another in
search of enjoyment. Wherever you saw joy and reached for it, you found that it
was further away, somewhere else. So you had to move on and that moving is
tiring.
Look at your whole life. A child gets tired of playing with
toys and wants new toys. Tired of playing with new toys, they want people to
play with, they want new friends. They grow a little older. Their games change.
The object of the game changes. They want something more. So it’s like moving
from one type of tiredness to another type of tiredness.
As a teenager you looked for something else, not toys. Which
is the new movie? What is the new fashion? You want to have the best match for
you. You are married. You make a very good couple. Then what? You want to have
your own home, children. Those who are single think that married people are
better off. Those who are married think that single people are better off.
Some think that people with children are happier. People
with children wish everyday that their child grows up quickly so that they can
be free. They wait for someone to give them a break, to take care of their
children. Everything is tiring.
You move from one spiritual path to another spiritual path,
from one practice to another. Sometimes people say, ‘‘Oh, I have meditated for
20 years. I am sick of meditation now. Please don’t tell me to do another
meditation. Enough is enough.’’ It’s boring. People have no time. They find it
boring to meditate. What to do? Where to go? When is that rest? That solace?
That peace? When is that love that is so comforting, so eternal, so blissful?
And you cannot rest until you reach home.
You may sit in the path here and there but you cannot be
there forever. You may take a break. On the motorway, there is some rest place.
On the way, you stop your car, use the restroom, stay a while and stretch. But
that’s all. You cannot rest there, or be at peace there. At the back of the
mind the drive is there — move on. There is no fulfillment.
It is the desire that tires you — the ‘want’ in the mind.
Your mind tires you more than the physical work. If you are willing to do some
work, even 15 hours at a stretch, it will not tire you but if you are not
willing and you have to work even for four hours, it will tire you.
You have a party at home or you are arranging Christmas
decorations. So you may work many late hours but still not feel tired. You feel
good about it. But you work in some place you don’t like, you’d like to have
four coffee or tea breaks and even then you feel it’s tiring! Don’t do any work
at all. Just sit and go on thinking. You’ll be terribly exhausted. For many
people, the tiredness and exhaustion comes from thinking and worrying, not by
working.
Thinking you need rest makes you restless.
Thinking you have to work hard makes you tired.
Thinking you have worked hard brings self pity.
There is a place to rest. That is the divine, that is
surrender and that is love. And you can’t do it unless you get really tired,
unless you get sick of everything. You drop down. That is called surrender.
There was a king, an emperor. He attained all that he wanted
to in the world, all the wealth; the whole continent was under his control. He
thought that this is the world. Thousands of people were under his command, all
the wealth at his disposal, all the pleasures at his beck and call. He could snap
his finger and get anything he wanted. But that couldn’t get him home. It made
him more and more tired.
Then he went looking for some spiritual knowledge. He went
from place to place, collecting things here and there, but nothing worked.
Everything seemed to work for a while. Finally, he got so tired that he
renounced everything. That also didn’t work. Being an emperor didn’t work.
Renouncing everything didn’t work.
One day he fell near a tree. He was exhausted of looking
for, but not finding, a real master. It’s not easy to find a master. Even if
one finds a master, it’s difficult to recognise and let go. So, he finally
dropped under a tree and at that moment a dry leaf fell down from the tree.
He was looking at the leaf and that leaf flew to the east
when the wind blew east and it flew to the north when the wind blew north.
Looking at that, something in him suddenly snapped — the doership. The ‘want’
simply dropped from him. That very moment he realised that that moment is so
eternal and he came back home.
Make life that way — become like a dry leaf — agree with
what the divine has provided for you, float with the moment; do not regret the
past, do not anticipate the future. That is what all the enlightened masters
say, ‘‘Keep practicing on your own. When you feel you can’t do any more, that
it’s all so tiring, then come and rest.’’ That’s why the places of enlightened
masters are called ‘ashrama’, where you come and get rid of your tiredness. ‘Shrama’
means effort. Ashrama means the place where all the efforts loosen up. All
tiredness, both mental and physical, vanishes. Even spiritual, you don’t have
to strive for it.
Just sit there. There is a candle, there is a light burning
for you. You only have to sit under its light. You’re lit. You don’t have to do
anything. It’s burning for you. You only have to connect, sit there and feel
the presence. Be a part of the divinity, then you will find that nothing can
tire you in the world. You will become the source of love. You’re the home.
Things cannot irritate you.
When you are tired, small little things can irritate you,
push your button, can throw you off balance. Our peace is so fragile that
anything, even a phone call, can blow it off. Our peace will be in hundred
pieces — just a few words from someone. Fragile peace is of no use. The peace
and love in our life should be so solid, like a diamond. Nothing should shake
or move it.
Desire, awareness of the self and action all are
manifestation of the same energy that is you. Among these three, one of them
dominates at a time. When you have lots of desires, you are not aware of the
self. When desire dominates, self-awareness will be at its lowest, and that’s
why all the philosophers around the world have always advocated renunciation
and dropping of desires.
When the awareness is dominant, then happiness dawns. When
desire dominates, stress and sorrow result. When actions dominates,
restlessness and disease is the result. When your actions and desires are
sincerely directed to the Divine or to the welfare of society, then the
consciousness is automatically elevated, and self-knowledge is sure to be
attained.
You cannot rest when you have to do something which you
cannot. And you cannot rest when you feel you have to be someone whom you are
not. You are not required to do what you cannot. You will not be asked to give
what you cannot give. Nothing is expected of you that you cannot do.
Doing service involves only doing what you can do. And no
one wants you to be someone whom you are not. This realisation brings you deep
rest. You cannot rest if you have either ambition or lethargy. Both are opposed
to good rest. A lazy person will toss and turn at night and be ‘restless’ and
an ambitious person will burn inside.
This rest brings up your talents and abilities and brings
you closer to your nature. Even a slight feeling that the Divine is with you
brings deep rest. And prayer, love and meditation are all flavours of deep
rest. The only thing you have to do in your life is to make your peace strong,
your love profound and your joy eternal.
Make your home god’s home and there will be light, love and
abundance. Make your body god’s abode and there will be peace and bliss. Feel
that your mind is a toy of god and you’ll watch and enjoy all its games. See
this world as play and as a display of god himself and you will repose in the
non-dual self.